Lately I’ve really been bombarded with how fast the kids are growing up. Waaay too fast. Lightening fast. In another month and a half, my oldest will be a 10 year old. Scary.
As time has been flying and we’ve been crazy busy the past couple of months, I realized I had turned into a No Mom. What’s a No Mom?
“Mom, Can I paint”
“No, I just cleaned up”
“Mom, Can we go to the park?”
“No, I’m too tired”
“Mom, Can we make cookies?”
“No, I don’t have time.”
“Mom, Can we read a book?”
“No, I have to call the bank”.
“Mom, Can I get a pet Snake?
Okay, the last one is justified, but the rest were just a matter of not wanting the hassle. That’s a No Mom. And yes, I often times can be a No Mom without even realizing it, especially when things are crazy.
This week, my goal is to be a Yes Mom. Whatever their little hearts request, within reason, will be a Yes. Now, it may not be an immediate yes, but I’m going to try my best to just have fun this week.
“Mom can we go get icecream?”
“Sure, right after rest time”
“Mom can we eat pizza for dinner?”
“Yes, that sounds great. How about you help me make the dough”
“Mom, can I play in the sprinkler?”
“Sure, but we have to limit it to 20 minutes so we don’t waste too much water”
“Mom, can we stay up late to catch fireflies?”
“Sure. To make sure you won’t be too tired to stay up, I’ll need you to lay down for a bit after lunch to rest”
“Mom, can we go to Disney World?”
“Absolutely! Now we have to convince Dad and save money for a year”
See what I mean? Every reasonable request even if you have to agree to do it on another day, time, or have to limit it. Or make them think about the reason you can’t do it immediately.
Now I’m not one to give in to every little fancy or tantrum, but I also realize that the past couple years have been very stressful, chaotic, and tiresome and I have been saying No far more than Yes. Right now, I think my kids need a Yes Mom. So YES, we just painted and made a mess. And YES, we had carrot cake for breakfast. And YES, we can go to the store in our mismatched dress up clothes.
Have you ever tried being a Yes Mom? How did it work out for your family?