Getting my 4 sweet and sometimes loud, age 10 and under, children to sit still in church has been quite the challenge at times. Our church offers nursery but it’s only through age 4 and really, I’d rather have my kids with me soaking up the word. It has definitely had it’s ups and downs. All in all, I think our kids have been much better than I would have expected. Practice does make perfect!
Here are the top 10 tips for introducing your child to worship, sent to me by the author of Rufus and Ryan Go To Church, Kathleen Long Bostrom.
1. Attend a child-friendly church.
A church that invites children to attend worship, that has a children’s time during worship or a service in which children are included, will not mind the noise and commotion that comes with having young children in worship.
2. Bring your child to church on a day other than Sunday morning.
Call the church office and make an appointment with a pastor, Christian education director, or church school teacher. Go on a tour of the church facility, and locate the Sunday school rooms and bathrooms as well as the sanctuary. Let your child explore the sanctuary, see how it feels to sit in the pew, and leaf through the Bibles and hymnbooks. Look behind the pulpit, Communion table, and baptismal font, and explain the use of these.
3. Take home a worship bulletin and go through the service at home.
Show your child that there are times to sit, to stand (and in some places, to kneel), to sing, to pray, and to listen. If the Lord’s Prayer is used, write down the words and let your child practice at home. Prepare offering envelopes and let your child put money in the envelope, and explain why the offering is important.
4. Play “Let’s go to church” at home.
Practicing the worship service at home will help your child feel more comfortable with what happens in worship.
5. Read the Bible and pray at home.
Purchase an age-appropriate Bible for your child and read the stories. Let your child handle the Bible and encourage questions. You can explain that the Bible is where we learn God’s story, and how we are part of that story. If you let prayer be a part of your everyday life, not just something you do at church, your child will understand its importance.
6. Sit near an aisle or in a place where you can make an exit if needed.
If your child needs to go to the bathroom, or is feeling overly stimulated or having a disruptive day, don’t be embarrassed. Walk your child out of the sanctuary until she can work off a little energy, and then come back in. This is much easier if you don’t have to crawl across a row of other people in the pew!
7. Be prepared with a worship notebook or bag.
Many churches provide materials for children to use during worship, but if not, bring your own supplies. Colored pencils can be used to mark the parts of worship in the bulletin as you go through them one by one. Get to church a few minutes in advance and use a bookmark to mark the hymns that will be sung that day. Have some coloring pages from a Bible coloring book for your child to color, or some blank pages for doodling. This is not disrespectful, and can help your child listen more attentively. Have the words of the Lord’s Prayer printed on a page for the child to follow, if he or she is of reading age. Let your child draw a picture of the anthem or hymns being sung, or the sermon, and give this to the choir director or pastor afterwards.
8. Teach basic church etiquette.
Speak to people before and after worship, and teach your child how to shake hands and greet others. If your child is shy, don’t force it, but practice at home and let your child see you greeting others. Let the child put the hymnbook and Bible away after use, and be sure to take your bulletin with you, rather than leaving it in the pew. Meeting other people and taking care of the church facility helps a child feel that “This is my church!”
9. Get to know the pastor.
Pastors of child-friendly churches love to get to know the children of the church. Introduce your child to the pastor after worship, and participate in other church activities so that the pastor becomes a friend and not a scary adult.
10. Don’t give up!
It may take awhile for your child to become comfortable in worship, and to learn how to sit quietly. The best way for this to happen is to attend worship on a regular basis. There may be days when it doesn’t go well, but don’t let this stop you from coming the following week. Practice makes perfect!
What tips do you have to help your children sit still?
Books By Corine says
One thing that I do, is help children apply the sermon to their lives. For example, I many asked them to draw a picture based on the sermon. Or if they are learning to writer, I many do a quick dot-to-dot of the verse for them to complete.
BTW, I love your ideas.
Great tips!! Our church either brings the kids in the sanctuary for worship, or they get to make their own band in their room. Always fun to hear them sing! 🙂
Heart of a Philanthropist Blogger Kim says
Great tips. I love the play church at home idea. Kids are so imaginative and if we make church seem like an everyday part of our lives (which Christ should be) it will be easier for our kids to understand why worship is so important.
Randi S says
Love this…great tips! I especially love practicing at home and going beforehand to get to know the building, going over the bulletin…I never would have thought to do this, but it makes so much sense!! Also, as someone who is ‘painfully shy’ thank you for mentioning not to force shy kids into greet others!!!
I’ve pinned this post to my ‘Christian Kids’ board. 🙂
Erica @ Healthy Christian Mom says
These are great tips. It is so important to have kids in the habit of church and worship from a young age. I love that you point out that it is important for children to take ownership of “their church.”
Thanks for sharing!